Traveling As A Couple, Some Perspective

I’m the last person that can be called an expert of traveling with a partner, being a free spirit all my lives I usually act as if I have a backpack even in my daily lives. I arrive to a place that seems to be my next station in life, meet the people that are there, share their world for sometimes and when I feel it is time for the next stage I’m off to where ever spirit is taking me.

Traveling is no exception and in fact traveling for me is just another way of being me. Don’t get me wrong I love the people that I meet on the path dearly, and remember them very fondly after our paths continue our separate ways but I won’t stay because I love them or love the place.

With all this said I know may couples traveling together my brother included and even met a family with three little children traveling by trains in India, the youngest child was as young as 2 years old.

I’ve seen some couples that were created on the road such as a man from Israel having a child with a women from South Korea and other combinations that seemed impossible but really worked.

Traveling leads to great intimacy and it can make or break your relationships if you are not in the relationship long enough to have this intimacy created already.

Loved the post on Bart’s Peru Travel Blog on the subject as I believe he really gave very good advice on making the decision to travel together. One sentence in particular:

if you would make such a trip on your own or with anyone else, because you feel motivated to do so. If not, then don’t go.

I can only add from my experience that if you do what you want with the person you want to do it with then you’ll probably grow from the experience and get to some nice places in the world and in the relationship but if you are trying to please someone else it would usually end up in tension and separation.

If you have the travel bug and he don’t then it would be something you’ll have to work out in your relationships.